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I Would Die

क्यू आज हम अपने आप को अकेला महसूस करते है ........?

सब कुछ होते हुए भी हम अपने आप को हमेशा इस जहान में अकेला पाते है । ख़ुशी और गम दोनों में हम अकेले होते है । सब कुछ पा कर भी हम खुश नहीं होते, ज़िन्दगी इतनी तेजी से गुजर जाती है की कब हम जबान और कब बूढ़े हो जाते है हमें पता भी नहीं चल पता । इस भागदोड़ भरी ज़िन्दगी में हम इतने बिजी हो जाते है की हमें पता नहीं होता कब अपने छुट गये और कब अपने दोस्तों से हम बिछड़ गये ये पता भी नहीं चल पता है और हम अपने आप से भी आगे आ गये । ज़िन्दगी जितनी हशीन होती है उसे हम उतनी हसीन तरीके से नहीं जी सके । जब हम छोटे होते है ज़िन्दगी में ना तो कोई गम होता है और ना ही कोई तकलीफ हम बहुत मज़े में जीते है । लकिन जब हम अपने ज़िन्दगी के उस दहलीज पे कदम रखते है जहाँ से हम और हमारे अपने जिन्हें हमसे उम्मीद होती है, उनके और उनके सपनो के लीये और अपने सपनो के लिये और ज़िन्दगी के कुछ आशुलो को किनारे रख बस अकेले भीड़ में भागना शुरू कर देते है । ज़िन्दगी जीने का मज़ा ही भूल जाते है, और जब तक हम कुछ समझ पाये उस से पहले अपने जींवन में एक और मुश्किल ले आते है 'बीबी' 'वाइफ' उसके आने के साथ ही हम अपने खुशियाँ की बली दे अब उसके लिये जीने लगते है । अपने परिवार और उसके बातो में आ कर हम बच्चे भी ले आते है, अब उसके लिये सब कुछ करना । इस बिजी लाइफ में पता भी नहीं चल पता की हम कब क्या बन गये ?  सब कुछ अपने कही खो जाते है। और कुछ सपने तो अधूरे ही रह जाते है । कोई ये भी नहीं जाने पाता की कौन थे हम ? हम खुद अपने आप को कभी जान ही नहीं पाते ।।। खुद को ये नहीं कह पाते की क्या खोया है हमने और क्या पाया है । कभी उम्मीद तो कभी अपने आप की अबाज से बाते कर लेते है और खुश हो लेते है । हमें तो अपने बुढ़ापे में ये सोच तकलीफ होता है की-' काश हम भी जिये होते अपने तरीके से । 

 ढलते सूरज के साथ हमने 

मौसमो को बदलते देखा है 

बदलो में छुपे सूरज को हमने 

फिर से निकलते देखा है 

जिसकी हमने उमीद ना हो हमने 

उसे भी लोगो से होते देखा है 

धुंध की आड़ में हमने 

फिजाओ को बदलते देखा है 

रोशनी के लिये हमने 

लोगो को जुगनू को ढूंढते देखा है 

बदलते वक़्त के साथ हमने 

खुद को बदलते देखा है 

अपने दबे होसलो को हमने 

फिर से उड़ान भरते देखा है 

हमने देखा है ,,,,,।।।।।।

हर रोज सूरज के साथ हमने 

एक नई सुबह को होते देखा है 

सुबह उड़े परिंदे को हमने 

शाम होते घर लौटते देखा है 

झुक कर हमने पेड़ो को 

आँधियो से लड़, जीतते देखा है 

हमने देखा है ...... ।।।।।

रोशनी के लिये हमने 

लोगो को जुगनू को ढूंढते देखा है ..।।।।

    

apni bahon mein mujhe

Apni bahon mein mujhe bikhar jane do.
Saanso se apni mujhe mehak jane do.
Dil bechain hai kabse iss pyar ke liye.
Aaj to sine mein apne mujhe uter jane do

Tere ishq ka ye kitna haseen ehsaas hain,
Lagta hai jaise tu har pal mere paas hain,
Mohabbat teri deewangi ban chuki hai meri,
Aur ab zindagi ki aarzoo sirf tumhare sath hai.
wooo....

sathiya hamnuma tu meri hai zindgi
bin Tera na mera hai kahi koi khushi .
naa mile tu mujhe to chode du ye jahaa
Jo tu mili to sab mila Sar Sama hai pyar
Bina tere naa mila koi manzer

5 Reasons Why You Should Move to Another City

The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself
                                                                                           ABHIJEET KRITAN 

1. You get to know yourself better.

Nothing can bring you closer to building an intimate relationship with yourself and getting to know yourself better than moving away from home and living in another city. You have the freedom to discover who you are, what you truly want and don't want without any distractions or influences from people close to you  --  whether it's close friends, family or just familiar surroundings as well as the societal and cultural norms you grew up in and were taught to believe.

Living in another city is an eye opener especially if the place is far removed from where you're originally from. You observe things from an outsider's perspective. You see things from the outside in which makes you re-think the way you understand your own culture and your own self from the inside out.

This process makes you re-think about who you are as a person and start questioning your original beliefs, attitudes and values which were influenced by your upbringing.

Questioning this over and over with different perspectives coming in back, front, left, right, you now have a chance to shape yourself to be who you truly want to be and find your purpose in life with fewer biases (as you would have if you lived in your own culture all your life).

2. You become independent.

Being independent takes courage  --  the courage to get over your internal fear to face unfamiliarity on your own.

When you move to a new city, everything is new; everything is unfamiliar. Unfamiliarity can make you feel insecure and scared at first. Getting to know the unfamiliar environment which soon becomes familiar teaches you to get over fear -- fear of discovering the new streets alone, talking to new people, trying out new foods, or fear of people in general because you do not know the intentions of others and the streets look scary at night.

Moving to another city, you learn to build up the courage -- over and over -- to be independent and face fear on your own. You will reach a point where facing fear and getting to know the unfamiliar alone are no longer scary.

You become independent.

And how rewarding does it feel to know that you can finally run on your own without having to have someone holding your hand all the time or watching over you?

3.  You become adaptable and open-minded.

Probably nothing is ever what you're accustomed to in a new city  --  from road rules, choices to choose from in day-to-day life, to people's attitudes and common behaviors. As a result of this, you have to keep an open mind and continue to learn new things. It's like going back to school again where you learn social etiquettes, the education system, healthcare system, the country's history and cultural beliefs etc.

The next you know you are no longer scared of change. In fact, you learn to embrace change. You thrive on change. Stagnancy and complacency become your worst enemy.

You become addicted to the excitement of discovering new things and adapting yourself to and trying to understand the new surroundings. Then all of a sudden, you feel the urge to move again because you simply don't want to lose that feeling of excitement (which makes you feel alive and gives you joy).

4. You can build a new identity.

You are a new brand here, not a rebrand. There's no better way to start fresh than moving to another city.

But the art here lies in getting to know yourself and the ability to be able to become who you truly want to be without influences or distractions from others.

People don't know who you are, where you're from, who your parents are, what schools you went to. They probably couldn't care less about your background. You now have a chance to embrace this new blank canvas to draw a picture of yourself. Whatever you want to be and do, you now have all the chances to explore and create without any influences from people you grew up with like family or childhood friends.

In a new city, you build a whole new ecosystem around you -- be it new friends, a new job, a new apartment and new flatmates. You have to find the place and people you feel belong. You get to really follow your heart, your instinct, and your true identity at present without having to compromise with past relationships. You don't have to hang out with childhood friends whom you no longer feel connected to because you both have grown apart mentally and intellectually. You don't have to slightly change who you really are to please your parents.

5. You start to wonder where home is.

When you move to another in your 20s, it's when life starts to become real life. You've just finished school. You're starting your first real job. You are over the teenage period and start to become an adult. There's a whole lot of psychological changes going on in your head and your mind. You start to self-reflect more and question your being .  What was I born to do? What am I really good at? What is my purpose in life? What is my true passion? How can I be truly happy? What's the meaning of life?

Discovering answers to all of these questions when you're far away from home, you have all the freedom to genuinely answer these without biases. The next thing you know, traveling and living overseas have become a part of who you are. You become emotionally connected to this new city you moved to only just a few years ago. You start to wonder where home really is. They say home is where the heart is, but where is my heart at?

We talk about falling in love as in falling in love with someone. But for a traveller, you fall in love with another city. The city has become your new love affair.

And here you wonder... where will I fall in love with next?

when we move a new home ... what we have to do....

After the last box is moved into your new home, you might think the hardest part of the move is over. And you're right. But that doesn't mean there aren't things you need to do after a move. In fact, there's a lot of stuff that needs to get done before you can relax completely. 
Moving Checklist of Things You Need to Do After the Move

1. Check major appliances. If you moved major appliances, such as a stove, dishwasher, washer or dryer, check to make sure all appliances and electronics are working to ensure nothing was damaged during the move. This is particularly true if the mover prepared your appliances for the move. Your insurance policy may have a limited time in which to make a claim. Since these are big ticket items, you should make sure they're all working.

1. Check all boxes and furniture to make sure nothing was damaged during the move. You should also make sure everything arrived and nothing was lost. You can do this byconducting a home inventory. Again, if you find your stuff was damaged at all, contact the mover and your insurance company to submit a claim. It's important to do this immediately upon moving in or the insurance company may not reimburse you.
2. Get your utilities set up. Before you can check your electronics, make sure all your services are up and running. There's nothing worse than arriving at your new place, late at night, and the lights don't work. Get more information on setting up utilities.
3. Collect receipts. Make sure you keep all receipts and documentation related to your move in one file and keep the file in a safe, secure place. Make sure you have your Bill of Lading and payment receipt. You may be able to claim your move on your next tax returnand you'll need all the necessary receipts to make your claim. 
4. Find a good school and register your child(ren).  While finding a good school is something that can be done before you move, if you didn't have time or you moved to a new city far from your old home, you may need to research schools once you arrive in your new home. The sooner  you can register your child, the sooner they can establish a regular routine making it easier it will be for them to settle in.

1. Register your vehicle. If you've moved states, provinces or countries, register your car and get a new driver's license, tags and/or plates for your vehicles. Check your local DMVfor more information.
2. Register to vote. Again, if you've moved cities, it's important to make sure you're on the voter's registration for your local area. You should also make sure you've updated all important files and documents with your new address.
3. Get connected to your new neighborhood. Buy a subscription to the local newspaperor community magazine. This will quickly get you up to speed on what's happening in your neighborhood.
4. Are you getting your mail? Check with the post office or your old residence to make sure you're mail is being forwarded and that you've registerd your new address. Use this change of address checklist to make sure you've notified everyone.
5. Find new health professionals, including doctors, a dentist and vet.  While this task can be put off for a bit, you'll be glad you know who to call when an emergency hits.
6. Create an emergency contact list. Whenever I move to a new city or town, I always take the time to create an emergency contact list of all the local information I'll need should something happen.
7. Take care of your finances - set up new accounts, have money transferred or order new checks with your new address.
8. Contact insurance companies, including household, auto and health. Find out if you're currently covered or if you need to create new policies with a new company. This is important to check especially if you're moving to a new state or province.
9. Get a library card - one for each member of the family. Once you have a library card, you can consider yourself, home!

ये खुदा दो पल और दे

बीते पल को मनाना है, रूठे कल को मनाना है 

आने बाले पालो में , जो रूठे है उन्हें मनाना है 

ये खुदा मुझे दो पल और दे,, 

जो छुट गये है उन्हें फिर से मनाना है ....!!!!!

जो अपने थे उन्हें फिर से साथ करना है,,,,,,,,

जो ना कभी मुझे जान सके उन्हें फिर से बताना है 

ये खुदा मुझे दो पल और दे.......

जो छुट गये है उन्हें फिर से मनाना है .......!!!!!

कभी जहाँ छा थी आज फिर से धुप लाना है 

कभी जहाँ रात थी आज फिर से सुबह लाना है 

जो मेरे ना हो सके उन्हें किसी और का बनाना है 

ये खुदा मुझे दो पल और दे ......

जो छुट गये है उन्हें फिर से मनाना है...!!!!!!

मुझे अपनों को आज ख़ुशी देनी है 

अपने को आज मुझे हँसाना है 

बीते पल को आज फिर से मनाना है  

जो रूठे है आज फिर से उन्हें मनाना है 

ये खुदा मुझे दो पल और दे ....

जो छुट गये है फिर से उन्हें मनाना है ...!!!!